Your mom had eyes in the back of her head. She saw through every little white lie as if they were told of cellophane. She dug up half truths and sleuthed out deception with an uncanny wisdom that would embarrass Sherlock Holmes.
But a few insidious lies got by her. They weren’t the lies you and I told her, but the same ones we fall for. The false implications, the inadvertent comments and persuasions we adopt by simply living in the world. The same lies she spent your entire childhood trying to reveal to you.
In an age of feminists and women’s empowerment, women who make Mommy their full-time career are sidelined. She might escape the downward glances of her more “successful” peers if she worked outside the home before she had children. If she can boast more than one degree or start a profitable business from home, then she can quickly validate her decision to stay home with her kids.
And there’s a little lie that poisons our grandmothers. Grandmas are not relevant anymore. Generations X and Y have evolved into electronic geniuses. They communicate better with their thumbs than their lips, so Grandma is resigned to showing off their pictures instead of hanging out with them. A flip side to this little lie is that Grandma has earned retirement from all forms of motherhood. She is no longer obligated to be a part of any child’s life.
I’m sorry, I sound so pessimistic. I truly want to wish my mother and grandmothers and mother-in-law a HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! The are the most influential people in my life. If I grow up to be like them, I know the Lord will be pleased!
If you really want to honor the mothers in your life, do more than send a card. You don’t have to do it this Sunday, but before next Mother’s Day, make sure you admire a stay-at-home mom. Write Grandma a USPS letter or ask her opinion about something on your mind. She’s smarter than you I promise!
Is this how you see it? If you are a stay-at-home mom, what is your experience? Grandma, what’s the last fun thing you did with your grandchildren?
And finally, a very light note, check out some of these hilarious lies that our mothers once told us!