Who can find a perfect wife?
She is better than being rich, better than living on a oil field.
She will never let you down, you will prosper in all areas, have all sons, drive a BMW – all of your heart’s desires.
She will work from home, and import exotic foods and know how to cook gourmet meals.
She will barely sleep because she will clean your dessert plate at night and serve you breakfast in bed.
She will handle all the financial issues – maybe even investing in real estate.
She will be strong and capable.
She will never be taken by a slick car salesman, all her purchases will be high quality.
She will sew well and provide for the poor.
Every winter she will make warm sweaters for you – of high fashion, too.
She will weave the 600 thread count sheets for your bed and you will always be satisfied there.
She will wear beautiful clothing.
Due in part to her excellency, you will be well-known in the city, your reputation will precede you.
She will never stress out about the future.
She will teach your children kindness and truth, and she will never say a harsh word.
She will completely take care of you.
She will never sit still and never waste time watching TV.
In return, you and the progeny that she has borne to you, will stand up and applaud her.
Tell me, how do you feel about that woman? I would like to slug her. She obviously has no needs and knows exactly what everyone else’s needs are before they do, and she meets those needs.
Meet the modern version of the Proverbs 31 woman.
Last Sunday, our pastor stated that the Proverbs 31 woman was a real historical figure. He thinks that Lemuel’s mom sat him down and pointed at the neighbor’s daughter, her choice for her son, and said, “Son, that’s the perfect woman.”
Just a few days ago, I was reading Vonda Skelton’s Seeing Through the Lies. Vonda says, “I don’t know about you, but I used to hate the Proverb’s 31 Woman.” She worried, “Why can’t I be more like her? Why can’t I bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan?”
Vonda’s conclusion is that the woman of Proverbs 31 was not a specific person. “She was an example of a dream wife – a wife who would exemplify the wisdom of the proverbs. It would be like me saying to my daughters, ‘Now listen, girls. If you can find a man like this, he’d be worth a million bucks.'” She goes on to imagine that 1. he would be rich, 2. all his stocks would do well, 3. he would always be able to protect her from financial difficulties and dangerous weather, 4. he would always speak kindly and give good advice, 5. he must be recognized for his achievements and respected publicly – SERIOUSLY?
Now, I’m not declaring emancipation from the duties of a godly wife. But, as I pray about my own life and listen to your comments here and my girl friends and my sisters, I believe that today’s Christian woman is all too aware of her faults and short comings. I spend most of my prayer time begging God to change me, improve me, make me a good wife, forgive me – or take me out. It’s exhausting trying to be as perfect as I believe all of my peers are, let alone measure up to the Proverbs 31 woman.
Romans 5:20, 21 “Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, so that as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
The Proverbs 31 woman is what a woman who kept all of God’s law perfectly would look like. By comparison, I am a disappointment. BUT, THANKS BE TO GOD who because of His perfect plan and limitless grace, now that I am aware of my short comings, I can come to Jesus who gives me His perfect righteousness.
Stop moaning over your failures. Step off the treadmill of perfection. Let His word bring you peace: “O Lord, you will ordain peace for us, for you have indeed done for us all our works.” Is. 26:12