Quietness and rest were foreign to me during the painful years of my eating disorder. In fact, they were down right scary. If my body was resting, then obviously, I wasn’t working hard enough to burn every available calorie. If my mind was quiet, then obviously, I wasn’t worrying enough about my last meal or my next one. I wasn’t meticulously counting the calories burned during my last workout or plotting my escape from a lunch date with friends. I truly believed that my frantic mind and anxious diligence made me stronger than others, both physically and mentally….
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There are few hungrier, predatory lies today than those that prey upon marriages and families. To that end, I recently wrote an article at StartMarriageRight, called, How to Get a Man to Talk.
That article got quite a bit of attention, rousing virtual dialogue among men and women, both those couples starting their marriages and those who have been practicing marriage for many years.
As I have been formulating and praying about a response, I stumbled upon (well, I stumbled upon, God was intentional) an article by Rev. Dan White. White wrote a piece called, What a Man Wants – Help! — Nagging, for HavenJournal, a highly relevant Christian ministry to women.
Rev. White takes a no-nonsense approach that might tempt women to balk. You know you’ve done it ladies, hands on hips, “How dare he,” “You don’t know my husband,” “I’ve tried that.” The trouble with that line of thinking is that this author is a man, so he likely knows the inside of your man better than you do, from experience. Also, he dares because Scripture backs him up. And, you may think you’ve tried what he’s suggesting, but what’s the harm in trying again?
In my article, I confessed that for many years, one of the reasons my husband didn’t talk to me much was because I filled all the extra airspace. Many of those words were perceived as nagging.
Remember Thumper? “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” Try it. Either shut up, or change up your words and your tone of voice.
And go read Rev. White’s article.
REST, God said.
Sure, I replied. It’s about time.
I’m tired, fed up and you’ve got it under control.
BE QUIET, REST, God said.
As soon as I finish the REST of what I need to do, God.
STOP, REST. IT’S DONE, God said.
Sure, God, but I must REST-less than others do, I can’t be out-done!
I SAID, REST. God said.
But what about the REST of my day?
I’ll prop up my feet while the REST of me works, OK?
What about the REST of my work?
The REST of what is expected of me?
What will the REST of the world think?
THE REST OF THE WORLD CAN WAIT.
THE REST OF IT ISN’T IMPORTANT.
THE REST OF THE WORLD DOESN’T LOVE YOU LIKE I DO.
STOP. HUSH. REST.