That’s What He Said.

There are few hungrier, predatory lies today than those that prey upon marriages and families. To that end, I recently wrote an article at StartMarriageRight, called, How to Get a Man to Talk.

That article got quite a bit of attention, rousing virtual dialogue among men and women, both those couples starting their marriages and those who have been practicing marriage for many years.

As I have been formulating and praying about a response, I stumbled upon (well, I stumbled upon, God was intentional) an article by Rev. Dan White. White wrote a piece called, What a Man Wants – Help! — Nagging, for HavenJournal, a highly relevant Christian ministry to women.

Rev. White takes a no-nonsense approach that might tempt women to balk. You know you’ve done it ladies, hands on hips, “How dare he,” “You don’t know my husband,” “I’ve tried that.” The trouble with that line of thinking is that this author is a man, so he likely knows the inside of your man better than you do, from experience. Also, he dares because Scripture backs him up. And, you may think you’ve tried what he’s suggesting, but what’s the harm in trying again?

In my article, I confessed that for many years, one of the reasons my husband didn’t talk to me much was because I filled all the extra airspace. Many of those words were perceived as nagging.

Remember Thumper? “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” Try it. Either shut up, or change up your words and your tone of voice.

And go read Rev. White’s article.

Finding and Recognizing Truth

Just today I “met” Amy Hunt through Emily Wierenga.  I am so ecstatic, thrilled, elated, warmed, touched – HUGELY HAPPY – to find my heart interpreted in her words!

There is no other way to share what I have read with you, than to allow you to read it for yourself. No paraphrase. Enjoy the pulse of Father’s heart in the words she shares.

This truth is hard to admit, yet I’m believing my obedience to telling is a must for me. Worship to Him. 

I’m a writer. I have a lot of work to do yet to improve this craft, but at the core of who I am is a writer. I also have a passion to encourage people. If I were to get paid for what I feel called to do, it might be different. Though, I fear it might feel awkward and expectation-like. I don’t write to meet deadlines and I don’t follow the steps on self-marketing to increase an audience. I write because it’s a must do for me. A living obedience. Writing is my worship.

The image, as well as the quotes, are a  re-post from Amy’s blog: A Rock 4 Him